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Pam Murphy, widow of actor Audie Murphy, was veterans’ friend and advocate


April 16, 2010 posted by Robert Rosebrock · 15 Comments


Pam Murphy: Audie Murphy Widow


Pam Murphy, the widow of Audie Murphy, was involved in the Sepulveda VA hospital and care center over the course of 35 years, treating every veteran who visited the facility as if they were a VIP. Pam Murphy died last week at the age of 90


By Dennis McCarthy

After Audie died, they all became her boys. Every last one of them.


Any soldier or Marine who walked into the Sepulveda VA hospital and care center in the last 35 years got the VIP treatment from Pam Murphy.


The widow of Audie Murphy – the most decorated soldier in World War II – would walk the hallways with her clipboard in hand making sure her boys got to see a specialist or doctor — STAT. If they didn’t, watch out.


Her boys weren’t Medal of Honor recipients or movie stars like Audie, but that didn’t matter to Pam. They had served their country. That was good enough for her.


She never called a veteran by his first name. It was always “Mister.” Respect came with the job.


“Nobody could cut through VA red tape faster than Mrs. Murphy,” said veteran Stephen Sherman, speaking for thousands of veterans she befriended over the years.


“Many times I watched her march a veteran who had been waiting more than an hour right into the doctor’s office. She was even reprimanded a few times, but it didn’t matter to Mrs. Murphy.


“Only her boys mattered. She was our angel.”


Last week, Sepulveda VA’s angel for the last 35 years died peacefully in her sleep at age 90.


“She was in bed watching the Laker game, took one last breath, and that was it,” said Diane Ruiz, who also worked at the VA and cared for Pam in the last years of her life in her Canoga Park apartment.


It was the same apartment Pam moved into soon after Audie died in a plane crash on Memorial Day weekend in 1971.


Audie Murphy died broke, squandering million of dollars on gambling, bad investments, and yes, other women.


“Even with the adultery and desertion at the end, he always remained my hero,” Pam told me.


She went from a comfortable ranch-style home in Van Nuys where she raised two sons to a small apartment – taking a clerk’s job at the nearby VA to support herself and start paying off her faded movie star husband’s debts.


At first, no one knew who she was. Soon, though, word spread through the VA that the nice woman with the clipboard was Audie Murphy’s widow.


It was like saying Patton had just walked in the front door. Men with tears in their eyes walked up to her and gave her a hug. “Thank you,” they said, over and over.


The first couple of years, I think the hugs were more for Audie’s memory as a war hero. The last 30 years, they were for Pam.


She hated the spotlight. One year I asked her to be the focus of a Veteran’s Day column for all the work she had done. Pam just shook her head no.


“Honor them, not me,” she said, pointing to a group of veterans down the hallway. “They’re the ones who deserve it.”


The vets disagreed. Mrs. Murphy deserved the accolades, they said.


Incredibly, in 2002, Pam’s job was going to be eliminated in budget cuts. She was considered “excess staff.”


“I don’t think helping cut down on veterans’ complaints and showing them the respect they deserve, should be considered excess staff,” she told me.


Neither did the veterans. They went ballistic, holding a rally for her outside the VA gates.


Pretty soon, word came down from the top of the VA. Pam Murphy was no longer considered “excess staff.” She remained working full time at the VA until 2007 when she was 87.


“The last time she was here was a couple of years ago for the conference we had for homeless veterans,” said Becky James, coordinator of the VA’s Veterans History Project.


Pam wanted to see if there was anything she could do to help some more of her boys.


Funeral services for Pam Murphy will be held Friday at 2:30 p.m. in the chapel at Forest Lawn, Hollywood Hills, 6300 Forest Lawn Drive, Los Angeles.


ORIGINAL STORY POSTED: http://www.dailynews.com/news/ci_14885262

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A friend sent me this recently. Seems an appropriate thread to post it. Lest we forget.




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Pam Murphy, widow of actor Audie Murphy, was veterans' friend and advocate

Pam Murphy died last week at the age of 90 ...



Awesome story. Thanks for sharing!

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A friend sent me this recently. Seems an appropriate thread to post it. Lest we forget.





I visited Audie Murphy's grave a year ago this summer, along with other soldiers and family. Not to hijack the post, but if you all have not been to Arlington, I suggest going.



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You know whats amazing, this is the first I have heard of it !!!! How sad that the passing of someone as wonderful as this gets relegated to filler space. Then again, all she ever did was work for our wounded vets......... surely the latest court room antics of Loopy Lindsay Lohan and her circus freak family merits even more air time !!!


RIP Mrs Murphy !!!

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A friend recently sent me this story of Pam Murphy. I had never heard it before. While Audie was a bona fied American Hero, Pam was also an American hero.

 Thank you Pam Murphy !!!

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